Ep 171 Living Life on Purpose with Intention with guest Jeanine Hauck
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[00:00:00] Welcome to the Bold Goal Crusher Podcast. For anyone looking to stop letting life get in the way and start crushing bold goals. I'm your host, Sara Mayer, and I'm thrilled to navigate this journey with you because it's time to start boldly achieving without working double time. So let's dive in.
Sara Mayer: Hello, bold, gold crushers. I'm super excited today because I have one of my favorite business besties on with me, and I think you're going to get a lot out of this conversation. I always love chatting with her. In fact, I could probably chat all day with her, except I'm flying out to Arizona today. So we will stay on topic.
Sara Mayer: Anyway, let me introduce my guest today. It's Jeanine. She's a coach, entrepreneur, wife, and mom to three little ones, all six and under. We need to talk [00:01:00] about how you do that. And she's made it her goal to help ambitious women discover and create life on purpose. And she does this through her gifts as an intuitive channel and an empowerment coach.
Sara Mayer: I need to talk about that for sure. So she Does turn the average into extraordinary, and you can do that as well. If you join her, I'm so excited to have you on the show. I was so excited to just meet you at first. And I know we've worked together for several projects. So you're always such a joy to have.
Jeanine Hauck: Oh, thank you, Sara. That means so much. I've. The feeling so
Sara Mayer: mutual. Oh, I love it. So talk a little bit about what you do and how you do this with three little ones, because I'm always just amazed.
Jeanine Hauck: I can't say I figured it out in one day. It is a constant evolving and changing. Plan. I know even we were talking before I'm just [00:02:00] going into summer hours.
Jeanine Hauck: So that changes and what it looks like is changing in every season, but it ended up being one of those things where I just. I couldn't not do it like the calling was there. I couldn't not do it. So it was just one of those things that I got to figure it out. And there's been a lot of bumps in the road, but it's come through a lot of personal self growth that it's even been possible and Really creating and cultivating a very intentional life is this is one of my priorities, and also having a happy family life is one of my priorities, then what does that get to look like and it really does change season
Sara Mayer: to season.
Sara Mayer: Yeah. I love that you are intentional about Creating the life that you want. And I think many times people fall into this life as they add things to their plate, as they add new work responsibilities, as they add family members to their family. So [00:03:00] how have you actually created that intentionally? For a long
Jeanine Hauck: time, I was definitely on autopilot going through the motions and thinking that was good enough and thinking that this was my whole life, my whole thing.
Jeanine Hauck: And then I ran into a coach that was started asking why, like, why was I doing that? Why was. And I'd never actually thought why it was just like the next step in the path, the next step in the path. And it's such a simple question. And it's it blows my mind now that it didn't even occur to me to ask why or what I really wanted.
Jeanine Hauck: And now what I'm doing is every day checking in with myself. What do I need today? What does that look like? What do I get to create? What lights me up? What's out of balance? And I do that with a lot of personal growth. I do that with a lot of energy work. And it's always growing. It's always evolving.
Jeanine Hauck: Who I was yesterday [00:04:00] isn't who I am today because It's such a continual process, which I'm sure you've experienced that as well.
Sara Mayer: Yeah. Yeah. And one thing that I really love is that you are stopping now to ask yourself why. So like you had an awakening and then now you're asking yourself this on. A regular basis.
Sara Mayer: So that power of reflection and continued growth must really help. Now when you first stopped and she asked you why what was your first thought, immediate reaction? I
Jeanine Hauck: think I'm, I can be quite a stubborn person. It was more of that feeling of like back against the wall. What do you mean?
Jeanine Hauck: Why? It's just, and then it wasn't until a few days later that I'm like, wait a second. Where have I been just doing things without even thinking about why I'm doing it. And so I do find I'm one of those people that sometimes it's like, what? And then it processes and they're like, Oh my gosh. And that time is getting faster now that [00:05:00] I've learned to trust the process.
Jeanine Hauck: But it's, yeah, it was something that like just got deeper understanding over the months. And when that first happened, it was right around the time I had my first child, which. I think it's no coincidence. I think there's just something about having kids that
Sara Mayer: changes something in you.
Sara Mayer: Yeah. It changes your perspective and sometimes you're hopefully your priorities and really what I've heard from other people is wanting to be the best version of yourself for them. Yeah. Because I think a lot
Jeanine Hauck: of times. It's harder to do things for ourselves, but if it's for somebody else where we find it so much easier, it's like when we're really kind to somebody else, but we're not always as kind to ourselves.
Jeanine Hauck: It's very similar thing. It's that motivation and it, as you work on yourself, it does change. And that's what I help a lot of women do is change it so they get to work on themselves and then it goes out to [00:06:00] others and then other people get the
Sara Mayer: benefit. Yeah. Yeah. I, you said something really profound there that it's sometimes easier to help others than ourselves.
Sara Mayer: How do you change that dynamic?
Jeanine Hauck: Think self awareness is the best thing. And then the other part would be being very gentle on yourself because we're not going to get it overnight or in a day. And I think that's a bit of a theme of what we're talking about. It's not an overnight process, but it's just.
Jeanine Hauck: Just having the knowledge to just watch your thoughts, watch your actions and look at it from a watching like, Oh, isn't that interesting that I would do that for so and but I wouldn't set that boundary up for myself. Or isn't that interesting that I would never talk that way to my child and yet I'm okay with [00:07:00] talking that way to myself all the time.
Jeanine Hauck: And just being very gentle with yourself that. It's going to take a little bit of time and as you notice the thought, one of the practices that I really like to do is if one of those thoughts come up, a lot of them aren't ours, we've gained them from people, environments and generally not with ill intent.
Jeanine Hauck: Yeah. So I really like to say if one of those thoughts come up, so I have something I can do. So I can take action because action feels so good is returned to sender with love. Yeah. Thank you. As thoughts come return to sender with love. And this is the new way I choose to think or act or treat myself.
Sara Mayer: Wow. I love that phrase. Return to sender with love. Yeah. And how long do you think it would take to reprogram some of those thoughts?
Jeanine Hauck: It depends on how deep it is. I know. One of the biggest thought changes that I did that like I noticed, and it was so [00:08:00] funny, it was so instant, so right away, is I used to say I have to do everything.
Jeanine Hauck: I have to do the laundry, I have to write those emails, I have to, and I was like, wait, I don't have to do anything. Everything in my life is a choice, everything I do is a choice, so I'm going to change it to I get to. Yeah. So after my first full day of changing until I get to, and I would say I have to, I'm like, wait, no, I get to, yeah.
Jeanine Hauck: By the end of the day, I noticed I had more energy. I was not having that nagging, like you have to do this. You have to do that. And God, it felt so good.
Sara Mayer: Yeah. There's such power in language. I talk a lot. About when I, and I don't know if you've ever known, if you knew this, but I had one of my master's degrees is counseling based.
Sara Mayer: And so I had to do, I got to do, I should change that language. I had the [00:09:00] opportunity to. Really practice, I had to do 500 hours or something in counseling, which that was not my primary focus of what I wanted to go into. But one of my teachers really taught me to listen for certain words. And one was half to one was just like, if somebody's explaining something to somebody else and they say, you just do this, it's implying hello, this should be easy.
Sara Mayer: You just do this. So the power of language, how we talk to ourselves and others really does change the dynamic on how we feel. But I love that you mentioned the energy because it changes the energy.
Jeanine Hauck: I think one of the words that needs to be on the list is
Sara Mayer: should, Oh yeah, should was one of them.
Sara Mayer: I'd have to go back and look beyond there
Jeanine Hauck: and whether you understand the energies or not, just go around, pick five things saying, I have to do this. [00:10:00] Yeah. Now I get to it's, you can see it. You can see all this. I'm like, I get to, it gets exciting. It gets to be something that was your choice.
Jeanine Hauck: I always think of, I get to as a kid and their birthday party, how they're like, so it's like, Oh my gosh, I get to see my friends and I get to play
Sara Mayer: and I get to, yeah. Yeah.
Jeanine Hauck: The energy matters so much because. Everything you have to do everything you should do all of the guilt, all of the shame, all of the it's heavy.
Jeanine Hauck: Yeah. And I could not be doing what I'm doing today and raising three young kids and staying sane. If I wasn't being mindful of the heaviness of the energy, what I'm allowing in my life. Yeah. What needs
Sara Mayer: to be released. So now you help women discover and really create a life on purpose. So if someone's listening to this and they start asking themselves, why am I doing this?
Sara Mayer: And [00:11:00] they're like, Oh, I have no idea how I got here. What's like the first step of going to creating that life on purpose rather than just like you said, autopilot. Yeah,
Jeanine Hauck: I think the first step is literally having that awareness that you're not living your life on purpose that you are on autopilot.
Jeanine Hauck: I think that's the first step is being mindful, and then everybody's path is so unique, but it's asking the questions. Asking, reaching out for help. If there's a coach that you're like, this is what I want to create. Sometimes it's reaching out to someone who's been there before. So you can get the guidance because it's an emotional rollercoaster.
Jeanine Hauck: Once you start peeling back the layers, because some of the things that you've learned and that you count is your true self and part of your true identity. That's not even yours. That could be your grandparents that's been passed down, but it's. It's always been there and you've never questioned if it's still served you.
Jeanine Hauck: Yeah. I think those questions are [00:12:00] huge.
Sara Mayer: Yeah. And those reflection questions. Are sometimes not easy to answer. Like, why am I doing this? Some of the things I'm thinking about is I don't even know what, how did we get here? Why do I, and also why do I continue to do it? Like I might be able to figure out why it started.
Sara Mayer: But really did be digging into that. Why is sometimes not easy. Sometimes it's family. Sometimes it's money. Like I got here and I, why am I doing this? Cause I don't have any money, so I have to do it or whatever it may be. But I love that you talk about that ongoing reflection on it, where the journey is not a one time conversation or a one time thought.
Jeanine Hauck: Yeah. I think one of the reasons why I'm so big on the why is because there's so many ups and downs on the journey, whether you're an entrepreneur or whether you're not, there's so [00:13:00] many ups and downs. So on the times that it's down, why are you getting up in the morning? Why are you doing what you do? It doesn't have to be the thing that, Oh, it switches your mood right away and everything like that.
Jeanine Hauck: But it can be that North star and it can keep you on that path. Even when it's hard, especially when it's hard. Yeah.
Sara Mayer: And we talk a lot about dreams and goals and how the big things are often difficult. If it's worth doing, it shouldn't probably be really easy. It should be a stretch. And sometimes it's hard to stay on that track because.
Sara Mayer: Many times when you're trying to do something really big or live your life on purpose and make big shifts, you have to do things that you've never done before. So you become a beginner and that not everybody likes to be a beginner. That's a hard place to be, especially for high achieving women who are used [00:14:00] to being successful.
Sara Mayer: So how would you suggest somebody navigate that?
Jeanine Hauck: I think as much as we have to do the why every day, we also have to look at the why in our goals before as we're setting them. So then you're not only doing the present, but you're also looking into the future as to where you want to go. Because I've had so many clients come to me and say, my goal is a hundred thousand because that's the it number right now.
Jeanine Hauck: It's starting to seven figures, but that's six figure a hundred thousand. That's the it number right now. Yeah. And so I asked them the why and generally they're like I don't know, like that seems to be the number that's meant to be, that seems to, but if we're looking at the energy of that, it really holds no energy.
Jeanine Hauck: It's because that's supposed to be where you want to go. That's supposed to be. And so ask yourself, what do you want to be doing when you have that hundred thousand, like what the version of you, what is the [00:15:00] life that you want to live at that point? So maybe it's. Being able to hire a housekeeper, maybe it's to have coffee every day, maybe it's going to multiple trips a year.
Jeanine Hauck: So that's the goal. Choose that to be the goal, not the hundred thousand because you'll hit a hundred thousand for sure. Yeah. It should be done with so much more ease and joy because it gets to be joy even when it's hard.
Sara Mayer: I don't know how that became the number, but I think that it's really interesting when I work with clients and I see that they get there.
Sara Mayer: It's it's like a point where they're proud and they're like, Ooh, that hustle was all worth it, but it's also a place in a business, I think that it. Creates less stress because most of the time at that level, people are paying themselves, which is always a thing paying themselves and they have a little more comfort around their [00:16:00] finances and but I think it really comes down to that feeling of having achieved a
Jeanine Hauck: goal.
Jeanine Hauck: And I think achieving the goal is so important. Like I, I love goals. Like goals are great to get that goal. That feels good. So you can get there faster. Yeah. And I think a lot of times, like you can hustle hard to hit a hundred thousand, but if you haven't done the inner work, you're the same person you were when you were making 10 K versus a hundred K person with a couple more tools in your toolbox, where if you can evolve into the person you want to be and focus on that piece.
Jeanine Hauck: Yeah. You feel good for like for longer, like it's with you forever and you have it in your
Sara Mayer: pocket. Yeah. I think so many people leave their nine to five in search of freedom and then back to the hustle culture that you mentioned, then they create a business that is not intentional around the life that they truly [00:17:00] want and they end up in a business that is exactly why they left their nine to five.
Sara Mayer: That's all they know.
Jeanine Hauck: You create what you know, and unless you're going back to the why, unless you're asking yourself why you're doing it and re instilling that every day you're constantly on a wheel creating your past. Otherwise.
Sara Mayer: Yeah. Ooh, you're constantly on a wheel creating your past.
Sara Mayer: And as humans, we do that in so many areas of our life, don't we? In,
Jeanine Hauck: in every area, honestly, that I can think of because we do what we know, and if we always do what we know, then that's always coming from the past of what we've learned in the past. It's not actually what's true for you in the present. And sometimes that stands for you still.
Jeanine Hauck: And sometimes that's still relevant and works for you. But sometimes it's Oh, does this still serve me? Or is it time to let it go, upgrade, evolve. And it doesn't mean what's in the past was worse. Or better or anything like that. It's [00:18:00] just means this is what you need now.
Sara Mayer: Yeah. And that is deep.
Sara Mayer: That's why we need, that's why we need to really dig into that. Why more often? Because many times we're just recreating generational as well. Decisions.
Jeanine Hauck: Yeah. Yeah. And it's the interesting thing is then your kids do it. And then it passes on, like somebody gets to break the cycle. Somebody gets to do that.
Jeanine Hauck: And I've chosen to do that in my life. And also I have the unique experience of getting my kids to do it and they're still young, so it looks very different, but it's just being it like, why are you doing that? And just being able to empower them by empowering yourself, you're really causing that ripple effect.
Sara Mayer: Yeah. Yeah. And speaking nicely to yourself as well.
Jeanine Hauck: That is so huge. It's so funny. I'm like, I wanna be my three-year-old when I grow up because you look so [00:19:00] beautiful. You're so kind. You're so special. I know . Oh, I know. Okay. I love your .
Sara Mayer: That is amazing. And then there's something that happens that rocks that.
Sara Mayer: And that's what's so sad. I've worked on a lot of committees where the chair has somebody on the committee. That's like super excited and like very ambitious and they're great. And I'm like, don't dim their sparkle. Do not take away their sparkle.
Jeanine Hauck: And isn't that why it's so important that we're so intentional about the people we surround ourselves with because we can hold ourselves up.
Jeanine Hauck: And sometimes it's just a lot. So it's just a lot, and then we sway and then we lose a bit of that sparkle. So if we surround ourselves with people who completely know how awesome we are, and if we need a kick in the butt, it's an empowered kick in the butt, then that's what we want to strive for. [00:20:00] Yeah.
Sara Mayer: So I always like to ask everybody, what are you currently reading?
Sara Mayer: Cause I know that you do a lot of reflection, a lot of reading. So what's on your book list right now? The, my
Jeanine Hauck: favorite book that I read recently is actually by Joe Vitale, Zero Limits.
Sara Mayer: I need to add that to the list.
Jeanine Hauck: Oh, it's good. And the lovely thing is it's such a simple read because reading is not something I make a huge amount of time for right now with schedule and the kids and, but that one was so easy, so good.
Jeanine Hauck: And it's all about taking ownership of everything and everyone in your life. Yeah. but not having to do anything to fix it.
Sara Mayer: Yeah. I like that. Taking ownership of everything and everyone in your life. That I think is something that a lot of people can learn a lesson from. I'm going to add that to the potential book club list.
Sara Mayer: As we have a book club. So yeah, I'm reading Grits, which is not a light read. It [00:21:00] is very scientific, but it's so fascinating. It's about how talent is not enough to be successful. And so she studies like why some of the most talented people go into the Marines or go into elite programs and then drop out right away.
Sara Mayer: And so spoiler alert, because it's the title of the book, that grit is the other component is that if they have this grit, then they. Maybe don't necessarily need all the talent in the world, but they have enough to be successful. I like
Jeanine Hauck: that. It's so true. Yeah.
Sara Mayer: It's a deep, it's a deep read because she does talk about the science and stuff like that, where they've actually studied, people who go into the Marine Corps and they've been working on that since they were 11 years old.
Sara Mayer: And then they drop out in the. Third month. There's a lot of
Jeanine Hauck: tenacity and fears that you have to overcome that is once
Sara Mayer: [00:22:00] you're doing it. Yeah. It's all mindset work. Yeah.
Jeanine Hauck: Yeah. It's. That would be a very interesting read.
Sara Mayer: Yeah. It's a great read. And it goes back to your question of the why, like, why did I start this journey?
Sara Mayer: Why am I still on this journey? So I think that's really interesting because it all comes back to that why. And I think there could be some key to that, that maybe their alignment of their why is off. Yeah.
Jeanine Hauck: Because those fears are very real and knowing your, why you can choose that is not the path you want to walk down or it's too important not to walk
Sara Mayer: down that road.
Sara Mayer: Exactly. I just love this conversation. I always love talking with you and I know. Always know you're up to something. You have something that you're working on putting out cause you do such great stuff. So I'd love for you to tell the audience right now, how they might work with you and what they might expect and where to find you.
Jeanine Hauck: Thank you. Yeah, I [00:23:00] have, I usually have an event going on or two this summer. I am taking the summer off so I can speak to wonderful podcasters such as yourself, Sarah. But one of the greatest places to hang out with me is actually in my Facebook group, Her Extraordinary Life, where we really just put out those questions that get you thinking, we start the conversations, it's a community of very like minded women.
Jeanine Hauck: That's the main place. Or you can come hang out with me on my Instagram at janine. hauk and or send me an email janine at janinehauk. com and we can get the conversation going. You can share with me what you're experiencing. I always have my inbox open. Yeah.
Sara Mayer: I love your Facebook group. It's very inspirational.
Sara Mayer: The people in it are great. So definitely check that out. I'll link that in the show notes for everyone. So you can jump into her Facebook group. And again, she always is hosting an event or two. So definitely check those out. I'm usually promoting them or part of them. So I think you're in [00:24:00] good hands if you do reach out.
Sara Mayer: So make sure you jump in that group.
Jeanine Hauck: Thank you. Yeah. If you're ready to start, get off autopilot and really get intentional on purpose. Come hang out with me. I got you.
Sara Mayer: Yeah, I love it. Thank you for being on the show. It was so great to have you. I always love connecting with you. You're like one of my favorite people.
Sara Mayer: So thank you so much.
Jeanine Hauck: Thank you.
Sara Mayer: Have a good one, everyone. And remember you can crash your goals without working double time. So let's get to it.
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Sara Mayer: I look forward to seeing you crush your goals this year.
